Do You Have Delusional Confidence?

Have you noticed how more people than ever are prepared to voice their opinions publicly? On social media, television and radio, daily I read, see or hear ordinary people sharing their views on everything and anything with the world. It would appear that the world is full of experts, or as my dad used to call them, ‘Know-Alls’.

Social media such as Facebook and Twitter allows everyone to write what they want to about anything they feel they have an opinion on. When I was growing up, there were no such means to share your word in such an easy way. Broadcasting was left to television, radio and newspapers. Only experts had public opinions.

Not so in today’s society. Everyone can broadcast pretty much whatever they want and most of the time it goes uncensored too! I even know of friends that feel the need to ‘broadcast’ (or stream as it is called) live to Facebook or Periscope simply using their mobile phone.

This is not necessary a bad thing. In today’s world, we communicate more freely and without inhibitions. We say what we feel, we share our opinions and we do it without thought most of the time. So what’s the problem?

The flip-side to this often gives the broadcaster more confidence – a false confidence. There is often nobody to edit their words or restrict what it is they are telling the world. Even an apparently shy person will share something personal that perhaps they wouldn’t without the outlet of social media. Does it matter?

This ‘open’ society allows everyone to have and to express an opinion about whatever they choose. Occasionally someone might challenge their point of view but often what it is they announce goes unchallenged. The broadcaster, no matter who they are or what they really know about what it is they are discussing, becomes confident that their opinion is correct.  I call this ‘delusional confidence‘.


So what should we be aware of when we choose to broadcast something to the world at large? Here are my five top tips.

  • Make sure we have ALL the facts and not just hearsay.
  • Consider that others might have opposing points of view.
  • Remember that others are building an opinion of us based on what it is we say.
  • Ask ourself if what we say could come back and bite us in time.
  • Wear the other person’s shoes.

It is all too easy for us to broadcast words that we will live to regret. We forget that something said ‘digitally’ will live long after we have moved on. As I’ve got older (and more grumpy) I’ve gained the wisdom to realise that my opinion doesn’t count for anything. Free advise is exactly that -free and therefore worth nothing.

So we all embrace the opportunities available to us in the modern world to have our voices heard. I am doing so here, through this online journal. So let us all remember the most important principle of a Spiritualist’s life . By the way, we don’t have to be a Spiritualist to live by it. If we embrace this principle not only will it change our own life, but more importantly it will change the lives of those around us. What is the principle?


There is good news and there is bad news. The good news is that you are responsible for your own life. The bad news is that you are responsible for your own life. Your call .     ♥

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